While certain feelings find themselves coded within a distribution of socially “productive” emotions—codes often inimical to progressive social ends—these same feelings contain volatile affective material from which alternative feelings may emerge. For example, just as shame is linked to certain forms of public visibility (exposure), this shame might also stimulate the vulnerability necessary for tenderness. — Rob Halpern, Realism and Utopia, p.91 (via lovevoltaireusapart)

nihileigh:

When we live in a world where you can access free content of naked consenting women in less than 5 seconds, why are people still invading the privacy of non-consenting women for nudes?

Hint: It has something to do with people feeling entitled to making any woman their personal porn, even if it violates or humiliates her in the process.

(via youdontlooklikeafeminist)

breanieswordvomit:

gemmacorrell:

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Obviously we know that I’m The Carb Swallower….

breanieswordvomit:

gemmacorrell:

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Obviously we know that I’m The Carb Swallower….

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A self indulgent piece of shit

Many people say they are reluctant to be self-compassionate because they’re afraid they would let themselves get away with anything. “I’m stressed out today so to be kind to myself I’ll just watch TV all day and eat a quart of icecream.” This, however, is self-indulgence rather than self-compassion. Remember that being compassionate to oneself means that you want to be happy and healthy in the long term. In many cases, just giving oneself pleasure may harm well-being (such as taking drugs, over-eating, being a couch potato), while giving yourself health and lasting happiness often involves a certain amount of displeasure (such as quitting smoking, dieting, exercising).

I’m a dick

See if you always feel like your problems are more important than anyone else’s. People who are self-absorbed are unable to see past their own problems to consider the fact that other people may be suffering, too. If something bad happened to you, whether it’s a break-up or an annoying conflict with your boss, and you can’t seem to shut up about it to anyone within earshot without considering how those people might be feeling, then you may be self-absorbed. It’s one thing to share your problems, but it’s another to make your problems the most important part of all of your social interactions, no matter how much the people around you may be suffering.
If you’re self-absorbed, then you may often compare your own problems to the problems of a friend who is trying to vent to you. If your friend just separated from her husband and your first impulse is to compare the relationship to your two-month relationship, then you may be self-absorbed.
If your friend is talking about a death in her family or some other awful experience, then your reaction should be to listen and to be there. If all you want to do is talk about how your grandmother died ten years ago or try to make it about yourself, then it may be because you’re self-absorbed.
If you have a problem, whether it’s a small argument at work or an altercation with a neighbor, and you feel like your ten best friends absolutely have to know every little detail, then it may be because you’re self-absorbed.

Being alone never felt right. Sometimes it felt good, but it never felt right. — Charles Bukowski, Women (via feellng)

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exulansis

dictionaryofobscuresorrows:

n. the tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it—whether through envy or pity or simple foreignness—which allows it to drift away from the rest of your life story, until the memory itself feels out of place, almost mythical, wandering restlessly in the fog, no longer even looking for a place to land.

mcgimpsey:

"Thoughts for today".

mcgimpsey:

"Thoughts for today".